Ups and downs of a gay commitmentMar 03, 2007 |
Gay relationship undergoes the same whims as many man-woman relationships do. No wonder that some problems occurring after your relationship steps over a "honeymoon stage" are the almost the same as those in a traditional couple. The exception may lie in an increased pressure your couple may experience when facing misunderstandings and condemnation from the others.
Family roles and duties
It would be better to think over your responsibilities before jumping into a long-lasting relationship. The roles and duties you’ll decide to take depend on your individual opportunities and wishes.
Try to find compromise, and talk all the problems aloud, rather than keeping them in complicated mazes of your soul, accumulating them till the boiling point.
When a routine and boredom sets in
The most difficult in a relationship is rather to save what we’ve already accumulated, than to begin something new. Sooner or later you can come to a line, when you think that you know everything about him and there is nothing to search for. Events are repeated again and again, talks are no more interesting and exciting as they were in the beginning.
Crisis you are going through doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve come to an end. Many heterosexual couples decide to have a child at this stage; you may not have such opportunity or desire. Other reasons are rather doubtful ones to tie you both together for long. Try to vary your pastime. You can fill your life with fresh sensations, spending time it in parachute jumping or discussing something new.
In search for sex experiments
Variety of sex experience could be a very good idea to refresh your relationship: tantric sex, new poses and other experiments are reasonable and helpful sometimes, but not always. It won’t save the unit, if the main cause is lack of new feelings towards each other.
Extramarital partner
When sex no longer satisfies, many couples settle the matter searching for other guys. This is truly the easiest way or a never-ending story - you are free to decide.
May be you should look for a change inside yourself, rather than outside your couple. Think whether an escape is worth it.
Your love relationship turned out to be not what you imagined it to be. As a matter of fact there is no such relationship that goes without fluctuations at times. You have a chance to make your partnership more intimate and unique.
I recently parted from a 2 1/2 year relationship & found that monogamy is a big issue in the gay community, it seems that quite a few break ups are the result of cheating...I often wonder if it comes back to how 'man' is obsessed with sex (more so than our female counterparts)...But here you two highly sexual beings in the need of constant satisfaction...So it is true about the Honeymoon phase, only it seems to happen quickly these days...
This is an interesting post. Since I am in a relationship now and we recently turned 1 year and I hopefully we be together as long as it takes
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