Gay Sex: Opening New HorizonsOct 05, 2007 |
What can prevent you from getting complete satisfaction? Believe it or not, this is your mind, your brains, your morals, your superstitions that do now allow you enjoy sex in all its variety. Your mind makes you concentrate on a problem: not intense orgasm, short or thin penis, weak erection, discrepancy in your and your partner's desires, etc. How to free your mind, to stop worrying and to start getting pleasure?
Consider the following that will help you to free your mind and to explore new horizons in sex.
No limits
Keep in mind the following rule of satisfying sex: everything that gives pleasure to you and your partner is appropriate. Do not restrain yourself and do not think of what is good and what is bad. And, of course never say never. “I'll never do this or that....” But why? Why do you think you'll never like something you don't like right now?
In fact your desires are very likely to depend on your partner. With this partner you never wanted to perform blowjob or fisting, but this doesn't mean you won't want to try these activities with someone else. Now you are mostly the giving partner, but some day you might want to switch the roles. Always be open for something new and untested.
Be sincere with yourself
What is your most daring fantasy? What turns you on? Try to answer this question maximum sincerely. Sometimes it so happens that we conceal our desires from ourselves, for various reasons. Some our fantasies seem to us too dirty or immoral. Some of them are not up to a certain image of good sex that we created in our mind.
Who said that orgasm is the guarantee of satisfaction? Sometimes activities that do not lead to orgasm might be much more satisfying. For instance sensual massage. May be you don't experience a strong orgasm because you don't need one right now? Explore your mind and find out more about your true deep, or even subconscious desires.
Find the right partner
Sex does not require great and everlasting love, but sex without any warm feelings is quite boring and in most cases dissatisfying. That is why you should ask yourself: do I have any good feelings this person or I just want sex? If you realize that your answer is: I want only sex and nothing more you should give up this partner. Thus you will get moral satisfaction and you will not associate sex with something immoral and something that has power over you.
How many partners should I have?
Some people think – the less partners, the better. Ideally, there should be only one partner throughout the life. There is another opinion: the more partners you have, the more satisfying your love life is. Perhaps both opinions are extremes.
Keep in mind that sex is not only physiological mechanism for getting pleasure. Sex is a specific way of communication of two persons. You cannot imagine a person who needs communication with all people he meets, and of course, you can hardly imagine a person who needs only one person for communication throughout his life. The truth is somewhere between two extremes.
Love your body
Keep in mind – there are no ugly bodies. Tastes differ. Someone might no like your body, whereas the other dreams of a partner with body like yours. Feelings are more important. The one who loves you loves your body, as it is your body, the body of the beloved person.
