Topic: Relationship

The Art of Anal Stimulation Mar 25, 2008

One of the most erogenous male zones is anus with plenty of nerve endings that have a potential to bring you the powerful orgasm and enormous pleasure. If you want to give your partner maximum pleasure, it is high time to explore that unknown area.

1. Foreplay.
   Very often guys do not like to spend a lot of time on foreplay, preferring to go straight to the point. However, anal play needs some time to get used to the feeling and experience all the pleasures of backdoor sex. Do not focus on his penis only, you may as well touch his entire body; his nipples, lips, neck and other parts to awaken his body for something saucier.
2. Rimming
   One of the most enjoyable anal plays is rimming, when you stimulate your partner's anus with your tongue and lips. It is important to note that for safer sex you should use a dental dam or condom to cover up the anal area to prevent from passing germs. You may lick around his anus or make some movements with your tongue that stimulate penetration. This is very enjoyable for a receptive partner who becomes more relaxed during play and may want for something more than anal teasing with your tongue.
3. Prostate stimulation.
   Once your man is aroused, you may go on to stimulate his P-zone or his prostate that is located inside his anus about two inches inside. Use a lubricant and apply it on your fingers, covered with a fingerstall or a condom. Insert one or two fingers inside and feel the area that feels like a walnut and try pressing against it. If your partner shows you the signs of excitement - you are doing everything just right. You may also lick his balls or stimulate his penis with your other hand to add more pleasure. Usually as he becomes more and more aroused he will ask for more intense stimulation.
4. Penetration with sex toys
   Make anal penetration step by step, by using special sex toys such as butt plugs and probes. You may begin with smaller toys while inserting them into your partner's anus. Also use a lot of lubricant for smoother penetration as anus cannot lubricate itself. You may insert a butt plug and leave it for some time while giving him oral sex, so that he will get used to the feeling and become more relaxed. You may also slowly move the toy inside out to make him enjoy the penetration.
5. Penetration with penis
   Watch over his reaction, as you see him more and more aroused, you may go for a real action. Start slowly, covering your penis with a condom and applying lots of lubricant. Choose a comfortable position and penetrate his anus with caution. Do not forget to keep on stimulating his other zones to make penetration more pleasant. Usually you will feel when your partner will want you to penetrate harder and deeper, but always try to stay in tune with your partner's desires so that both of you can have a mind-blowing satisfaction.

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Size Matters to Gays, Study Says Feb 11, 2008

Researchers at Utrecht University in Amsterdam found that penis size is very important playing a great role in self-esteem for gays. The study showed that there is a direct link between penis size of a gay male and his self-esteem. During the study, 251 gay men aged 29 years on average it was concluded that penis was the most important body part for them. For those men who have same-sex preferences the larger the penis is, the more confident they feel. In this regard, the vital question to any gay is to determine the size of their penis.

What is a normal penis size?

Penis size and its development is a matter of special attention to a lot of men. The amount of rumors and prejudices, concerning normal penis size increases by the amount of men, unsatisfied with its size. Your neighbor’s, friend’s or some other guy’s penis seems to be larger, better and so on. So scientists undertook this topic, making a range of researches on it.

What does penis size depend on?

At about a pubertal period penis starts growing and at about 17 years is considered to have a size, which won’t change during a lifetime. That’s why teenagers shouldn’t be too critical in defining their penis size, as it can change until they reach mature age. Myths you are probably to come across may contain such versions as “penis size depends on someone’s foot size, or complexion, or hair distribution”. Actually penis size depends on genetics more than anything else. Neither are sufficient differences among heterosexual and homosexual men.

What should be considered a normal penis size?

Many men make a mistake confusing penis size, while comparing it in flaccid and erected state. Flaccid penis size may vary depending on a mood, outside temperature and many other factors. At that you can judge of a penis size in erected state. As a matter of fact only a few conditions, caused by hormonal or genetic factors may require chirurgical intervention (for example: micropenis-over half an inch).

One of the most detailed studies on this topic was carried out by Dr. Richard Edwards in Canada in 1998. He studied over 3100 men and discovered that average penis size in non-erect state n 90% of men varies between 8 and 12 cm. There are some facts proving that during erection a smaller penis enlarges more than a bigger one. Average erected penis size is from 10 till 20 cm. Deviation from this range is considered to be a smaller or bigger penis, depending on the size.

Edward’s statistics on Penis size :

Average penis size - 16 cm(6.29 inch)
Normal penis size -15-19 cm(5.9-7.48 inch)
Standard penis size - 18-19cm(7.08-7.48 inch)
Small penis size - less than 11 cm(4.33 inch)
Big penis size -20-23 cm(7.87-9.05 inch)

Enlargement during erection

During erection penis can be enlarged twice on average. About 48 % declared that their penis stayed straight during erection, other informed of left or right incline or curve. You shouldn’t consider it wrong, unless some other signs, like pain suggest otherwise.

Penile-enlargement

If you are determined to enlarge your penis, you should weigh all pros and contras. Those who need immediate results may choose surgery, others content themselves with the manual methods. Anyway, it would be better, to search for information on this matter or talk to men, who’ve already enlarged their penis before you decide something.

A new study conducted by researchers at Utrecht University in Amsterdam confirms what's seemingly always been a gay obsession- penis size. The study doesn't focus on an idolization of male genitals (after all, being gay is not synonymous with sex), but shows a link between gay male penis size and gay self-esteem.

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Oral Sex. What doctors say Dec 05, 2007

Curiously enough, oral sex is not only enjoyable, it has beneficial influence on your health (or on the health of the both of you if you enjoyed pleasure time in position 69). So what is good about oral sex?

Helps to get rid of stress. Fellatio, being an oral action, like many other actions that deal with oral activity, can diminish stress and help to relax. This oral activity can replace other, more harmful oral activity (for instance smoking). Modern studies have shown that stress can cause such disorders as gastric ulcer and cardiovascular diseases. Oral sex is the best way to get rid of stress without medications!

Better skin. Male sperm contains a great deal of natural lipids and important amino acids. Many creams contain lipids that improve skin. As well sperm contains prostoglandins – natural agents that contribute to better health, as they widen blood vessels and improve blood flow to the skin.

Natural nutrients. Sperm is rich in Zinc and all the known amino acids. Studies have shown that even healthy people might lack zinc. The recommended dose for adults is 15 mg per day. There is a hypothesis that amino acids improve accessibility of Zinc. Fresh sperm contains about 1.25 mg of amino acids that help to produce very important proteins.

Natural protection from ulcers. Fresh sperm contains natural prostoglandins that help to prevent gastritis and duodenal ulcer. Studies show that small doses of prostoglandins protect from ulcers caused by stress, hydrochloric acid and even boiling water.

However, most men don't like to swallow sperm. Thus they don't give complete satisfaction to their partners and cannot enjoy the beneficial effect of sperm.

How To Make Sperm Tastier

If you don't like the taste of sperm you can change it. Of course, your partner will have to do something to improve the taste of his sperm, but he will like the process. The fact is that the taste of sperm depends on your nutrition. Have much fruit, especially melon and strawberries, and drink a glass of pine-apple juice a day. The result will be evident in 3-4 days.

What worsens the taste of sperm? These are smoking and alcohol: nicotine makes sperm acid, while alcohol makes it bitter. So let your partner know that he should not smoke and should not drink alcohol if he wants you to swallow his load.

Have a little liqueur and let a few drops of it remain in your mouth. Sperm will seem to you quite tasty.

If no tricks help you to like the taste of sperm, than you will have to think of what to do so that not to swallow sperm and not to insult your partner.

How to avoid swallowing?

1. Keep the sperm behind the cheek and go to the bathroom. This method is suitable if your partner doesn't release too much sperm.

2. Exactly at the moment of ejaculation position yourself so that sperm could get on your belly. Then make a little sex show for him. Stroke yourself and rub sperm on your body. Most likely he will want to continue.

3. Learn to give him oral pleasure so well that he won't notice you have spit the sperm in a handkerchief.

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Gay Sex: Opening New Horizons Oct 05, 2007

What can prevent you from getting complete satisfaction? Believe it or not, this is your mind, your brains, your morals, your superstitions that do now allow you enjoy sex in all its variety. Your mind makes you concentrate on a problem: not intense orgasm, short or thin penis, weak erection, discrepancy in your and your partner's desires, etc. How to free your mind, to stop worrying and to start getting pleasure?

Consider the following that will help you to free your mind and to explore new horizons in sex.

No limits

Keep in mind the following rule of satisfying sex: everything that gives pleasure to you and your partner is appropriate. Do not restrain yourself and do not think of what is good and what is bad. And, of course never say never. “I'll never do this or that....” But why? Why do you think you'll never like something you don't like right now?

In fact your desires are very likely to depend on your partner. With this partner you never wanted to perform blowjob or fisting, but this doesn't mean you won't want to try these activities with someone else. Now you are mostly the giving partner, but some day you might want to switch the roles. Always be open for something new and untested.

Be sincere with yourself

What is your most daring fantasy? What turns you on? Try to answer this question maximum sincerely. Sometimes it so happens that we conceal our desires from ourselves, for various reasons. Some our fantasies seem to us too dirty or immoral. Some of them are not up to a certain image of good sex that we created in our mind.

Who said that orgasm is the guarantee of satisfaction? Sometimes activities that do not lead to orgasm might be much more satisfying. For instance sensual massage. May be you don't experience a strong orgasm because you don't need one right now? Explore your mind and find out more about your true deep, or even subconscious desires.

Find the right partner

Sex does not require great and everlasting love, but sex without any warm feelings is quite boring and in most cases dissatisfying. That is why you should ask yourself: do I have any good feelings this person or I just want sex? If you realize that your answer is: I want only sex and nothing more you should give up this partner. Thus you will get moral satisfaction and you will not associate sex with something immoral and something that has power over you.

How many partners should I have?

Some people think – the less partners, the better. Ideally, there should be only one partner throughout the life. There is another opinion: the more partners you have, the more satisfying your love life is. Perhaps both opinions are extremes.

Keep in mind that sex is not only physiological mechanism for getting pleasure. Sex is a specific way of communication of two persons. You cannot imagine a person who needs communication with all people he meets, and of course, you can hardly imagine a person who needs only one person for communication throughout his life. The truth is somewhere between two extremes.

Love your body

Keep in mind – there are no ugly bodies. Tastes differ. Someone might no like your body, whereas the other dreams of a partner with body like yours. Feelings are more important. The one who loves you loves your body, as it is your body, the body of the beloved person.

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How to come out? Sep 24, 2007

Though many gays accept their sexuality quite easy, for many of them "coming out" is a difficult and long process. Realization may happen in the early youth, when you first feel that you are somewhat different from others.

You may have had strange or vague idea how to define your difference, asking yourself whether it's normal or you don't know how to react towards this fact. There can be various ways of developing your feelings till you accept your identity in sex orientation terms.

Some of you may unconsciously choose a defense behavior, increasing sexual contacts with the opposite sex to prove themselves that this "condition" is temporary. Other can avoid any information that concerns homosexuality for fear of revealing "awful" things.

Some can transform their fears into hostility that is directed toward other gays, trying to restrain their own feelings. One more way out can be drugs and alcohol, where you can hide from yourself. This struggle with yourself can be painful and long enough until you realize to face the truth.

When you decide to "come out", you should expect that this won't be a one-day event. Even if your parents or friends reaction won't be a shock, you may feel as if they didn't wanted to talk with you about it, discussing this topic behind your back. You should know that once you told somebody about your sex orientation, information can get about quite soon, so be prepared to every attitude from condemnation till sympathy.

Tips for gays, who decided to confess:

1. First of all try to choose a person you trust mostly, be this he or she, your brother or sister, your close friend, or a parent.
2. Try to choose the right time for a serious talk. You should be sure they take in your words thoughtfully without haste. It would be better for you to be in a steady emotional state.
3. Keep in mind the main reason, why you decided to talk about it. If you wish to astonish or hurt somebody, their reaction can correspond to your aim.
4. Share all your fears and sincere feelings, telling that you didn't mean to do anyone harm and just need to talk about it because living with this "secret" is unbearable.
5. If reaction of those close to you is rather unpleasant, give them time to reflect on it. If your friend doesn't want to hear anything, think over whether you need such friends. Remember that your parents may have conflict feelings, which won't necessarily relate to you, but more over with a sense they did something wrong or somebody influenced you bad way.
6. You can always address professional psychological help or encounter group in your city or region.

Remember, that it's totally your own right to make a decision whether to come out. But hiding your suppressed feelings can be rather difficult to deal with it alone.

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Is my jealousy reasonable? Jun 22, 2007

Jealousy is a feeling that is common for all people irrespective of their age, gender and sexual orientation. It is one of the strongest, the most painful and destroying emotions. You do realize that jealousy makes you nervous, prevents you from sleeping at night and in general causes a great deal of discomfort, to say the least of it. At the same time you do understand that this emotion is inevitable, and you do want to know whether your jealousy is groundless or the situation is so that you can justly experience this feeling.

When jealousy is reasonable

Your willingness to understand whether you have just reasons for jealousy is quite natural, as no one wants to experience useless bad emotions. The following information will help you to understand whether your (or your partner's) jealousy is grounded.

His strange behavior. If some considerable and inexplicable changes occurred in the routine of your life, than your suspicions might be grounded. In this situation you have the right to desire an explanation and to let your partner know about your worries. This should be done as soon as any suspicions occurred so as not to aggravate the situation.

Open flirtation. You have the right to be jealous if your partner outrageously flirts with another guy. This shows his bad manners and you have the right to express your dissatisfaction with his behavior and to reproach him. Your partner could be far from intention to insult you and he could hurt you intentionally, in order to make sure you love him. Also he could provoke your jealousy just for entertainment. Whatever reasons for such behavior your partner had he was wrong and he should know about that.

When jealousy is unreasonable?

Jealousy is unreasonable if it is caused only by your feeling of being suspicious and by your lack of self-confidence. Endless questions about the way your partner spends spare time without you, that are asked only because you suspect him of having some other life without you, are insulting. Such questions will destroy your relationships unless you stop being so suspicious. Examining his lingerie in order to find any physical evidences of his unfaithfulness are thoughtless, unless you have doubtless proofs that he cheats on you.

It is very unreasonably to be jealous of your partner's feelings to men whom he knew and whom he loved before he met you. The very fact that he is staying with you now should be enough to be sure he needs you.

If you never express your jealousy, than, perhaps you are a very wise person. However, never let your partner hurt or insult you. Your partner must respect you, as only in this case your relationships will be stable and long-lasting.

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Ups and downs of a gay commitment Mar 03, 2007

Gay relationship undergoes the same whims as many man-woman relationships do. No wonder that some problems occurring after your relationship steps over a "honeymoon stage" are the almost the same as those in a traditional couple. The exception may lie in an increased pressure your couple may experience when facing misunderstandings and condemnation from the others.

Family roles and duties

It would be better to think over your responsibilities before jumping into a long-lasting relationship. The roles and duties you’ll decide to take depend on your individual opportunities and wishes.

Try to find compromise, and talk all the problems aloud, rather than keeping them in complicated mazes of your soul, accumulating them till the boiling point.

When a routine and boredom sets in

The most difficult in a relationship is rather to save what we’ve already accumulated, than to begin something new. Sooner or later you can come to a line, when you think that you know everything about him and there is nothing to search for. Events are repeated again and again, talks are no more interesting and exciting as they were in the beginning.

Crisis you are going through doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve come to an end. Many heterosexual couples decide to have a child at this stage; you may not have such opportunity or desire. Other reasons are rather doubtful ones to tie you both together for long. Try to vary your pastime. You can fill your life with fresh sensations, spending time it in parachute jumping or discussing something new.

In search for sex experiments

Variety of sex experience could be a very good idea to refresh your relationship: tantric sex, new poses and other experiments are reasonable and helpful sometimes, but not always. It won’t save the unit, if the main cause is lack of new feelings towards each other.

Extramarital partner

When sex no longer satisfies, many couples settle the matter searching for other guys. This is truly the easiest way or a never-ending story - you are free to decide.

May be you should look for a change inside yourself, rather than outside your couple. Think whether an escape is worth it.

Your love relationship turned out to be not what you imagined it to be. As a matter of fact there is no such relationship that goes without fluctuations at times. You have a chance to make your partnership more intimate and unique.

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First date tips Dec 22, 2006

You met him and realized that you want to continue your acquaintance, you've probably changed your phone numbers and you are waiting for a date, which promises to be great.

1. First of all, don't be nervous. First date is just a first date. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you won't see him again.
   
   
   
2. Chose a place that you know best, where you feel comfortable and will be able to talk without disturbance. It can be a restaurant or a bar.
   
   Other public places such as cinema or a football match can be too public to have enough time to talk in quiet.
   
   
   



3. First impression is very strong; this fact was known long ago. Don't ignore to care about your appearance. Clean clothes and underwear, pleasant scent would do the best.
   
   If you don’t know his clothing tastes well, it would be better to put on something that is not so extravagant, not mentioning that it should suit the situation.
   
   
   
4. At the beginning of your date you may feel rather confused, worrying about what is going on in his mind, did you make a good impression or not and so on.
   
   Believe me, he is thinking the same things.
   
   
   
5. You can discuss anything, more important is "how" than "what". Listen to him attentively, but remember that behind words stay real emotions.
   
   Intonation and gestures tell more about him than words actually. Use your eyes, they are much more expressive, and trust your intuition.
   
   
   
6. Don’t go too far in your expectations; you can never be sure if he is a guy of your dream, especially because he can turn out to be not what your imagination has drawn so colorfully.
   
   
7. If you are not sure about his sex orientation, it would be better not to make him face the naked truth just at once: "I’m a gay. Let's start."
   
   
8. Try to gather as much information about him as possible, for example you can find out what he really thinks of gays by discussing related topics in films or TV programs, where he can tell his opinion.

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And you should always weigh possible consequences and chances before.

Even if he will turn out to be a heterosexual, you may stay friends at least.

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